Being in love is painful ONLY when the one you love is the wrong person for you. The person that you choose to spend your days and nights with, the one you share your body with and connect with, the one who you think will protect you is the same person who is destroying you. That is a hard pill to swallow – to know that the relationship that means so much to you is the same one making you sick.
You see women who are stuck in physical, mental, and/or emotional abusive relationships and you can’t help but wonder, “Why won’t she just leave him?” She wants to, but she is scared. She knows she deserves better, but decides to give it another chance, because this time he just may change. Little does she know, she is deepening the sharp spikes of barb wires inside her skin and the pain will only worsen with time. The cuts will be so deep that her scar tissue will never heal affecting not only her body, but also her mind, heart, soul, and HEALTH.
Affects On Your Health
Yes! Being in such a bad relationship can LITERALLY make you sick. I mean nausea and vomiting, headaches, depression, anxiety, weight loss or weight gain, poor appetite, hair loss, and even cause illnesses to fall upon you due to the stress and misery that you are holding onto ever so tightly. Staying when you know it’s time to go will only prolong the pain.
Your relationship affects your health in ways that you wouldn’t have thought so. What we feel and think on a daily basis needs an outlet. Bottled up emotions find their way out, eventually. When you cannot handle your feelings in a healthy manner such as talking about the problems in the relationship and coming up with solutions or couples therapy, your cup of emotions begins to overflow and manifestations of ailments start to present themselves.
Emotions within our hearts sends signals to our brain and the quality of that signal determines what our brain does in response to that emotion. Therefore, if you constantly feel rage, jealousy, fear, and sadness in your relationship then that will cause disease, inner damage, and that state of resistance that is within you further disrupts your health.
Know When to Leave
Being trapped in a bad relationship is not only detrimental to your mental state and emotions, but also your physical health. And I do say trapped, because that is exactly how many feel. You have the choice to get out of an unhealthy relationship, but your feelings are tangled up in barb wire that it hurts to be in it just as badly as it hurts thinking about exiting. It really is like having withdrawals from the one person you love, but who is no good for you.
While in a bad relationship, your health is getting a beating every single day. Your body will, sooner or later, get weak causing your immune system to also weaken and attract illnesses. You will be left with no choice than to make some changes in your life.
If you feel that you are stuck in a bad relationship and have already seen the changes within yourself, then it is time to find your very own strength and pull those barb wire spikes out one by one, NOW. No matter the pain and suffering that you will feel while your skin is ripping off with those wires, you have to do it to get better. You just have to.
You Are Stronger Than You Think
You must remember that working on a relationship and suffering in a relationship are two completely different things. Don’t get yourself caught up and confused. You can rise from anything and completely recreate yourself. Nothing is permanent and you are not stuck.
You have to cut ties with that person who is destroying you and also cut ties with the version of you who allowed that to happen in order to be healthy again. I’m telling you, this does affect your health! Stop trying to dodge the process of letting the one who doesn’t deserve your love go, its the only way to grow. Get the strength to say, ” I love you, but you’re no longer worth this pain.
When you choose a life partner you are choosing someone who will affect everything in your life: Your mental health, your peace of mind, the love that lives inside you, how you get through life’s trials, and so much more…. Choose wisely. You cannot carry this baggage that is holding your health hostage any longer. Don’t be a prisoner of love.
10 replies on “A Prisoner of Love”
An excellent post on a tough subject. Thankfully for me, bad relationships are a distant memory, but however long ago, they never quite leave you.
I agree! They are tough, but neccessary lessons.
Thank you for this post. Unfortunately there are women and men who are prisoners in love. I know two women in this predicament.
My one question would be, how can I help them without endangering the person, kids or myself?
There are many scary situations as those and that’s when, unfortunately, we can’t do anything, but lend a shoulder and advice them to go to local authorities. I pray your friends find an exit to their situation safely and become whole again. ❤
I found myself in an abusive situation once, it can be hard to leave because you want to give them a chance to get there shit sorted out. But then the chances just keep stacking up. Knowing when enough is enough is important
Yes, you couldn’t have said it better! I’m glad you got out of that situation.
I was stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship (forever asking who I was with, why I was there, when I’d be home, why I was going out etc etc), and while I was in it it’s like I didn’t know it was that bad, until we broke up and I felt a level of freedom I hadn’t experienced in years! Luckily my current boyfriend loves me and I can go and see my friends without being harassed!
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Great post that will hopefully resonate with someone stuck in a bad situation ND help them get out.
As someone who stayed in an abusive relationship I wish I had seen this post when I was younger! It’s exactly the advice I would have needed to gain the strength to leave! A very beautiful and poignant post, thank you!
A great post, staying in an abusive relationship or a person is as suffocating as you have mentioned. You are right, get out of that life, from this person, and you will see how strong you are; but unfortunately, for the victims is not as easy as we think; nevertheless posts like this can give them courage to find support and start a new life.