Your life is crumbling down in a whirlwind of chaos. It may be that your marriage is falling apart right before your eyes. Perhaps, you recently discovered your teenager is using drugs. Or maybe you just received catastrophic news about a loved one. These are all traumatic events that happen in life everyday to someone leaving them feeling destroyed, confused, and lost.
You may begin to question yourself on a daily basis, “Where did I go wrong?” “What do I do now?” “How do I move on from this?”. Truth be told, sometimes things just happen to good people and you have no choice but to keep moving forward, regardless what the situation was that occurred. During these tough times, as ironic as it sounds, what helps the most is – Solitude. Gain your individuality again. Learn who you are as a one person. Embrace your feelings of sadness, terror, anger, and uncertainty. To find yourself again, you have to know what you are feeling and instead of fighting those feelings back you have to face them head on.
After dealing with the emotions that have run through you only then will you manage to move forward and leave those feelings behind. It’s time for a change. You may not be who you were before, but instead you are now someone who is stronger and wiser through this impactful experience. This has given you a chance to regain perspective in your life that has most likely been changed in a drastic way. Solitude gives you a chance to work on yourself after being hurt, lied to, cheated on, betrayed, or your views of someone who was important to you have changed. You have to change to remold your character after being crushed. This occurrence that left you unrecognizable to yourself may not be easy to accept, but to find yourself you must accept what has transpired. You don’t like it, but it happened. The more you fight to accept this the harder it will be to find yourself and the deeper the pit you will fall into.
When you lose yourself its not just about finding your character again, but also restoring your self-esteem. Chances are that what you went through also left you feeling really low about yourself. It set you back a million steps, I know the feeling. Give yourself the pep talks that you need daily. Love yourself again. Accept your imperfections, because we all have them. Listen to you. No one knows you better than you, so listen to yourself. You may now have a new tug-o’-war relationship with self doubt, so changing your mindset during this time is also necessary.
We can’t change what comes hitting us like a ton of bricks, but we can find ourselves when we are left with an identity crisis after a psychological shock. You have to know that things happen for a reason and we don’t always get the answers why. It’s not an easy journey finding yourself, but it is necessary. The best part of getting lost though, is finding who you really are. Find yourself, you’ll discover that you love whom you’ve become.
9 replies on “Find Yourself Again”
I can relate to this so much and you’re so right that things can suddenly hit us and derail how we thought things will go. The bit you said about embracing what you feel is 100% correct — we can’t begin to process things or move forward if we hide from that (no matter how difficult that might be). Great post — thank you so much for sharing!
I’m glad this spoke to you as I’m sure it speaks to so many people if not everyone. I currently am going through things that I cannot run from any longer and am having to face. This is one of the hardest parts of my life and this encouraged me to write this blog for those who are going through a tough situation as well. Thank you for reading and for the feedback.
This is great Ms. Tee! I absolutely agree that we can’t control what happens to us, but that we can choose how to react to it. I love your message of self kindness and acceptance, and I agree that mindset is so important!
This is a message that I needed to share as I am currently going through this. I just wanted to share this in Hopes that someone may benefit from reading. I appreciate you stopping by.
This is an interesting post. It is definitely important that you can choose how you react what happens to you. Thank you for sharing your post!
Reaction is all dependent on us. It’s one of the only things we have control of. Thank you for visiting❤
You are welcome x
Ms. Tee, thanks for sharing thoughtful article and once has to control emotions and do things that make them happy to divert our mind from disturbances that we face. Keep smiling 🙂 🙂